While it can be beneficial in some aspects for parents to have a close relationship with their children, it can also cause harm when parents tend to hover close to their children, ready to rescue them at the first sign of difficulty or disappointment.
Laura Hamilton, an associate professor of sociology at the University of California and author of a new book, "Parenting to a Degree," says some parents provide so much financial, emotional and logistical support, it seems as if their children never left, according to her blog, "Families as they really are."
“There is some truth to the notion that helicoptered children are slow to adapt to adulthood,” Hamilton said. “Their academic success can come at the cost of self-development in other spheres.”
Chris Meno, a psychologist at Indiana University, wants students to find support and counsel within themselves, according to a recent IU newsletter.
"When children aren't given the space to struggle through things on their own, they don't learn to problem-solve very well,” Meno said. “They don't learn to be confident in their own abilities, and it can affect their self-esteem.”
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According to Hamilton, adults who extend parenting responsibilities to later in life end up “undermining their own financial security and draining emotional and psychological reserves.”
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Source: newsok.com
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